What is it that a man is willing to risk his life for a stranger (see the article in the “New York Subway Hero”)? And what is it that some people have fun with the pain of others?
Why do we want to stop smoking, but we don’t do it? And why do we lose weight to gain weight again?
The answer on these questions is lying in our human needs, our beliefs and the habits and routines that we have integrated in our lives.
In every moment in our life we make 3 decisions. The first one is: “On what do I focus?” The target you focus on is the target of your energy. In our lives there are so many things on which we can focus, but what is the most important for you? How much time you focus on the things that you most appreciate?
As soon as you focus on something, immediately you make the second decision: “What does this mean?” What meaning do you give to that where you focus on? This meaning is often given by our beliefs and the things we are used to do.
On the basis of the meaning that we give to something we make the third decision: “Which action do I take?”. Often we act on Autopilot, while we usually in similar situations choose the same actions. But does this “automatic” reaction match the things you really want? The person you really want to be?
On every moment of your life you can decide to focus on other targets, to assign a different meaning to the things you see, hear or feal, and take another action. First you have to be aware of your present-day patterns, and then you can transform them in a way that will really help you reach your goals.
When you look back at your life, have there been any moments that determined your life? Do you think another focus, another meaning and another action at that moment would have given your life another turn?
Anthony Robbins says: “It’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped“.